Posted by Rigby on November 20, 2004, at 0:05:28
In reply to Re: today's sessions » Rigby, posted by crushedout on November 19, 2004, at 22:48:17
Hi Crushed,
Sorry it's been so rough. :(
I'm not real sure if I'll keep going to my therapist or not but **please** remember that my situation is really different from yours. You have some very deep, unresolved feelings for your therapist and that's what's so difficult for you. What's hard for me now are things in my life (outside of therapy) so it's more about making sure this woman can help me.
You made your decision to try and resolve that transference elsewhere since it wasn't going away with her. Keep this in mind.
Try and think through, if you can, this mystery of transference with your therapist. You've been in therapy long enough to try and think it through, hard, on your own a bit. You might have a revelation or two--a moment of clarity that could help. Sometimes it's helpful to force yourself to be analytical. I was able to help myself a few times on some long runs--just thinking things through (it can take 6 to 7 miles though!)
The site url is:
http://www.twhj.net/cgi-bin/u/discus.cgiKeep writing, okay?
> Yeah, I've just been having trouble getting going in the morning lately. I'm starting light therapy and I hope that will help but it hasn't started helping much yet. I guess that was part of it. Another part was the email from the old T. That's really been nagging at me. I don't know why it hit me so hard. I guess I had to get hit eventually. (And there we were, hoping all my grieving was over. Oh well.)
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> I dunno why you going back threw me into a tizzy. You were my role model and now I realize I'm out here on my own. What the @#%&* am I doing? I hate this. I miss her really bad. Why can't she be in my life in some other way, not as my T? Why can't she be my wife? I ache. I suffer. I mope.
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> (Sorry for being so melodramatic.)
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> P.S. What was the name of that website you directed me to, right after the CD incident? The one that you used a long time ago? Do you remember?
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