Posted by Dinah on September 6, 2004, at 19:50:25
In reply to confession regarding therapist..., posted by Pandabear on September 6, 2004, at 16:10:17
I think you need to be very careful about telling her specifics. It widely varies with the therapist how well it's taken. I talked about posters describing driving by their therapists houses a long time ago, and my therapist said it wouldn't be a problem for him. He understood the motivation of wanting to be close to a therapist, etc. He also let me know what he *would* consider a problem. He's pretty laid back, and I wouldn't even dream of doing anything he said would be a problem. But he said it *very* carefully, like he thought that my talking about other posters doing it was a prelude to telling him I had done it myself. I hadn't (at the time anyway), and found it both reassuring and slightly amusing.
Later he openly displayed his address, I saw it was only a few blocks by my home, and I *did* drive by to see if it was likely that he'd be taking a short cut in front of my house. Luckily it's not likely because there are no through streets. I did it while he and his family were out of town, and I told him about it afterwards - a while afterwards. And I didn't even drive in front of his house; I could tell which house was his, but I turned on a side street before getting to it. I was positive that I would be caught somehow if his trip was cancelled or something. :)
I think more important, and certainly more important to talk about, is how badly you want contact with her as a friend rather than as a therapist. I know you know it's not going to happen, but it's clearly causing you pain. I'm not sure therapists are doing their clients a favor when they tell them things like your therapist told you. I'm glad my therapist and I are so clearly incompatible as far as friendship is concerned.
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