Posted by Pandabear on September 6, 2004, at 19:09:23
In reply to Re: confession regarding therapist..., posted by caraher on September 6, 2004, at 18:36:01
Thank you to all of your posts. I can relate to every single one of them. I have looked her up in the phone book...(she isnt there). I found out where she lived beacuse I was online and I googled her name to see if it would come up and it did...(it also included her address). I have talked with her about how I wanted us to be friends but that it could never happened and she agreed just because it tends to make the therapist patient relationship harder. I invited her last year to come to a special service at my church and she declined because she was going out of town but she also had told me that she usually wont do things unless she can be a "number in the crowd"...meaning that she wouldnt be noticed. SO basically, she cannot be involved with me outside of therapy.
My therapist and I have a great relationship I have been going to her since 2002 and we get along great...but I just feel really awkward about this. I would HATE for her to notice me driving by her house or something. I do wonder about her religious background, her marital status and family status but i didnt think it was appropriate to ask so i never have...the only personal thing I know about her is that she has 3 dogs...The thing that clinches the most is that she told me a year or so ago that had we met outside of therapy...we would be really good friends...and this was great to hear but it only makes my obsessing worse because I know how she feels...
this is part of why i worry about saying anything to her bc I dont want her to change the way she thinks about me.
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