Posted by Shadowplayers721 on September 4, 2004, at 0:12:01
In reply to Crisis #28,567 (long), posted by Aphrodite on September 3, 2004, at 8:40:05
Aphrodite,
I see this in a different light. I see the one you named as the adult cynic has two roles. One roles is he or she is controlling the child and two he or she is protecting the child. In the first role, that one is being an abuser to the child. That role is one of continuing what was learned as a child and repeating it. The other role is a protector. He or she is protecting the child from other adults that may try to get to the vunerable child.
This part of you have powerful positions and demands respect. They may control what the child states in therapy after all the memory didn't get verbalized until the end of session. Look at who is actually in control of the therapy. For some reason, this aspect of self feels threaten by the therapist or the therapy process. Maybe this part doesn't want the old secrets to be told by the child. They see that as vunerable. They see dependency as dangerous too.
I feel the therapist shouldn't argue with this part, but ask them what is that they need or what is it they fear. This process is knocking on vunerability and spells out, "I will get hurt again" message to me. Why not jounal with this aspect of self. They need their say, but I would not argue with them. That goes no where and keep the progress of therapy side tracked. They know what they are doing. They are very clever and do their job well. I respect them for protecting the child so well. However, they need to be taught they don't have do what they were taught when interacting with the child. The child deserves respect too.
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