Posted by shrinking violet on September 3, 2004, at 20:16:53
In reply to talking about feelings, posted by shortelise on September 3, 2004, at 12:33:56
>> When I started in therapy, I was unaware for the most part that I was feeling at all. Then I became aware that my body was full of sensation, that I have tons of feelings in my body that I can't put a name to.
I still get this way. I tend to numb out a lot, and even if I'm sitting there crying I have no idea why, or what I feel. It's really hard.
>> I looked up a list of "feeling words" on the internet, read through it, and thought about what some of those different words would mean in terms of actual feeling. That helped.
Wow, that is a really good idea. I think I'll try that. I can imagine her face when I whip out my list. *lol* Thanks for the suggestion.
>> I think that when we've spent so much time, so many years protecting ourselves from letting other people see our true feelings, it's really very hard, very very hard to trust enough to reveal them.
Yes, that's exactly it for me. But I know my T really cares, and she tries so very hard, and if I were going to trust anyone with this stuff it would be her. I just need to find a way to get it out.
>> Maybe you could talk about how difficult it is for you to feel, or talk about how you feel about inconsequential things.She knows I numb-out a lot, and she knows all this stuff is pretty deep down. At the same time, though, as she says that, she still seems to expect me to get over it and let it out. I think I will try talking about less intense things, and the maybe the other stuff will just come up on its own.
Thanks so much.
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