Posted by daisym on September 3, 2004, at 0:59:40
In reply to Re: How do you *do* therapy? » shrinking violet, posted by Dinah on September 3, 2004, at 0:32:02
When I started therapy, I had to learn a whole new language...the vocabulary of emotions. I was "fine" or "not very well" or "OK". My therapist would just ask more - what does fine mean? What are you feeling right now in your gut? Or in your toes? I learned to describe things better which helped me to tell him some of the hard things. And somethings still don't have words, they are just too awful to put out there.
The other thing that helped me was to talk about my dreams. I could describe dreams pretty well and as we talked about them, other elements would come into the conversation. Especially trust elements.
Something will shift and let you begin to open up. Perhaps you could make this a goal and you could together brain storm what might work for you. I know people who can't talk without keeping their hands busy. Others can't make eye contact.
Keep trying. The rewards will be worth it.
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