Posted by shortelise on September 3, 2004, at 12:33:56
In reply to Re: How do you *do* therapy?, posted by daisym on September 3, 2004, at 0:59:40
This is really interesting.
When I started in therapy, I was unaware for the most part that I was feeling at all. Then I became aware that my body was full of sensation, that I have tons of feelings in my body that I can't put a name to.
It's still hard. I looked up a list of "feeling words" on the internet, read through it, and thought about what some of those different words would mean in terms of actual feeling. That helped.
And I told him my dreams. He told me later that when I wasn't able to tell him how I was feeling, he could often get insight about it from the dreams I recounted.
I think that when we've spent so much time, so many years protecting ourselves from letting other people see our true feelings, it's really very hard, very very hard to trust enough to reveal them.
Maybe you could talk about how difficult it is for you to feel, or talk about how you feel about inconsequential things. Maybe practice by talking about how you feel about the colour blue, or the way the leaves look on the ground in autumn, or the smell of coffee.
Hope this helps.
Shorte
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