Posted by vwoolf on August 24, 2004, at 9:57:45
In reply to Re: Transference Insight » tabitha, posted by fallsfall on August 24, 2004, at 7:46:54
Everyone here sees their parents or grandparents in the description. I see myself. That is exactly what my marraige is like, and it's terrible!
I think I must have got into this situation because I couldn't believe I had any right to any good treatment. I suppose I have always lived other people's needs rather than my own, starting with my father's sexual needs. So I have served him, and pandered to his every desire, and even cut his toenails (believe it or not). And supported him financially. And still do.
For the past year I have been trying to change the pattern, and he has been having the most furious temper tantrums, has been insulting and abusive (verbally). I'm actually not sure how much longer I can take it. He will cling though because he depends on me for everything, and I feel totally trapped.
I guess my son is going through what you are. It makes me very sad.
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