Posted by fallsfall on August 23, 2004, at 18:50:25
In reply to Re: Transference Insight » fallsfall, posted by Susan47 on August 23, 2004, at 17:28:04
Usually I play the strong role (I am usually my father, not my mother - as in this transference). So I don't have much experience being criticized. Maybe that is why it was hard for me to see - because it didn't occur to me to look to see if I was playing my mother's role.
I've tried to make my therapist my puppet (and he calls it just that), but he will have none of that. The only time he ever really said "There was some countertransference" was when I tried to tell him what to do. He does NOT like to be told what to do, or what to say.
I've stayed because I *know* he is good (skilled). And I had similar issues with my other therapist (so I know it is me, and not them). And we have resolved pieces of transference, so I know that it is possible to resolve it. I think the biggest thing is that I know it is my issue - not his. "Wherever you go, there you are" Changing therapists wouldn't fix my problem.
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