Posted by JenStar on August 23, 2004, at 19:30:37
In reply to A question please? For any/every one, posted by Dinah on August 23, 2004, at 18:39:52
I think it requires "hidden energy" to be fake.
It's easy to do (for me, anyway!), once I get in the groove, but I think it takes an invisible toll on the mind and the psyche and the spirit.
Kind of like air pollution: You can't really see it (unless you live in Mex. City or LA or similar) but it's there nonetheless, slowly blackening your lungs and irritating your airways and wreaking havoc on the mast cells...until one day you wake up with asthma.
Kind of a slow sapping of the energy, no?
I agree that it takes incredible up-front strength to be genuine and honestly TRUE, especially if it's a risky situation where you face potential rejection of any kind and where it actually matters to you what people think of the 'real you.' It's also hard to do if you've fallen into the habit of agreeing to be agreeable, and yes-ing to be liked, and acquiescing to keep the peace -- breaking out of a comfortable known routine is never easy.
In the end, though, I believe that after you get over the activation energy of being honest, that it's downhill from there in terms of 'ease of use.'
This is -- of course -- largely hpyothetical for me, since I am not usually in the habit of being truly ME in many situations, although I am dying to do it!
Take care.
Write again when you feel up for it!JenStar
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