Posted by starlight on August 2, 2004, at 11:38:50
In reply to Re: The Experiment Continues ? rs, posted by daisym on August 1, 2004, at 18:45:35
I agree with Daisym. He lost a client. That's probably the hardest thing that any therapist faces careerwise. Try to see it from his point of view - he must run through a huge internal dialogue of what he did wrong - even though he probably didn't do anything wrong. In this situation, if he didn't call you back, it seems like it should be a completely forgivable offence. The other thing is that these therapists have their own lives to deal with and I think they deserve their own private time without interruptions. But then again, I wouldn't even think of calling unless I was to the point where I was suicidal or needed to be hospitalized. But, I'm a very high functioning person.
I joined the military when I was 17 and learned to not engage in self indulgence when it came to depression or my illness. The drill instructors would start banging on our racks at like 5:05 in the morning and we had like 3 minutes to be dressed, beds made and be downstairs in formation. It was so bad that some people would actually sleep in their uniform pants, or sleep on top of their made beds if they could get away with it. That experience taught me that it was better just to give in to the fact that this was my reality and it was actually easier to accept it than it was to give in to my desire to be physically depressed.
It was like my mind just shut off to the possibility of breaking/shutting down and being in bed all day. So even when I'm depressed, I just accept my circumstances and continue with my normal daily patterns without giving in to the desire to hide out in my house.
I have another close friend of mine who suffers from the same things that I have. Her case is worse than mine, but at the same time, her environment has enabled it as well. She still lives at home and lets her illness drive her life. Her mom is always there for her to take care of her even though her dad is abusive about it. I think that the pattern she lives in caters to her illness and makes it easy for her to break down because she knows that they will house and feed her. The need to actually survive changes that alot. It's great motivation to keep going because there's no one else to pay the bills.
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