Posted by fallsfall on May 27, 2004, at 6:59:26
In reply to heads or tails...*may trigger*, posted by toomuchpain on May 26, 2004, at 23:38:35
Toomuchpain,
You are right - he is not looking out for your best interests, neither as a therapist nor as a man. I am so impressed that you can see this - that you can recognize that his actions are hurtful towards you.
Your current therapist sounds like a keeper. She is recognizing the seriousness of the situation. She is confronting her employing agency, she is confronting your old therapist, and she is going outside the agency to protect you. She is also being honest with you - she didn't have to tell you what he said, but it sounds like she wants you to have as much information as possible. At the same time, though, she is "holding" you - protecting you by taking the actions she is taking.
Transference *is* a normal and important part of therapy. What you did and felt was appropriate. I'm glad that you can see that *he* is being hurtful towards you.
I'm glad you have your new therapist on your side - I get the picture of a knight in shining armor, there to protect you, the fair maiden. But I can't think of a name that goes with that picture that starts with a "B". Babble therapists' names have to start with a "B"... Time to check the book of baby names...
Stay strong, but lean on her and on us when you need to. You don't have to fight this battle alone.
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