Posted by fallsfall on May 25, 2004, at 18:03:38
In reply to Re: U WIN .. I LOSE **MAY TRIGGER**, posted by joslynn on May 25, 2004, at 13:35:13
Toomuchpain,
This is TOO much!!
Often therapists don't work 5 days a week. Can you find out when he doesn't work and schedule your appointments then?
Or ask for a special place to wait for your therapist, or for her to come to an outside door if you can park nearby.
There should be strict ENFORCED rules about what he and you can say to each other. "How are you?" sounds innocent, but it truly isn't. I saw my old therapist last week (for the first time since I "fired" her 11 months ago). She seemed happy to see me and asked how I was doing - in a way that made me think that she really did want to know, that she did care how I was. I said "good", and she picked up her next patient and left the waiting room. That simple (and kind) exchange really threw me. I want to have a session with her, I want her to care, I want her to tell me that I'm doing well, I want her to understand what I've learned (can you say "obsess"?). If she *hadn't* asked how I was, I would have been even more upset. I would hope that you could limit his vocabulary towards you to "Hi". That seems more than enough for him to say (if by chance, you do happen to bump into him).
And yes, just sitting in the waiting room not knowing if you will see him will probably be tramatic for you, too. That's why you need to be able to wait somewhere else. Or stagger your starting time or something.
Your new therapist should advocate for you and find a way to protect you. If she doesn't, then I think you should go back to the board where you made the initial complaint and ask them to set something up that will meet your needs.
You shouldn't have to lose here.
poster:fallsfall
thread:350388
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