Posted by gardenergirl on May 27, 2004, at 0:16:59
In reply to heads or tails...*may trigger*, posted by toomuchpain on May 26, 2004, at 23:38:35
tmp,
Wow, what an amazing thing to hear. I just sat and struggled for the right word. Amazing is best I can do.You are right, transference IS supposed to happen. The therapy relationship is supposed to be a safe place for you to tell all that you did. When he started to develop feelings for you, he should have immediately sought consultation, and then referred you to someone else if he could not overcome them. So, in some ways, it does make sense if he would have unconsciously wanted you to stay sick and depend on him, so he didn't lose you.
How sad for you both. It sounds like he is going to get into serious trouble, more than he has already. And you have had your safe therapy relationship betrayed.
I admire you so much for having the strength to try again with someone else. Please continue to use that strength to do what is best for you, whether you stay at that agency or decide to get a fresh start. At the very least, it sounds like your current T has strength as well, as she is bucking the powers that be at the agency.
Take care,
gg
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