Posted by sjb on April 23, 2004, at 14:05:26
In reply to Re: He crossed the line, posted by TryingToBeMerry on April 18, 2004, at 18:19:02
Thanks so much for all of your support. This thread has been very helpful for me. I was particulary interested in the timing, i.e. that many victims don't "deal" with it until their 30s or 40s. (Of course, I guess we were always "dealing" with it in different ways, in my case, from my early 20's to mid 30's I was a very, very heavy drinker.)
I'm seeing an excellent therapist now, and since my first post I really opened up about it for the first time. I'm still struggling with the family dynamic. I haven't heard from my sister who was in the trial since last week when I reminded her of my history (she usually emails often.) It's like my other sisters abandon me when I bring it up. I feel like they find it more important to protect the relationship with the brother-in-law and stay in the denial world rather than validate the Truth and my world by sticking by me.
I REALLY wish I never told them but there's nothing I can do about that now.
I can really relate to what others have said, esp. the person's who's family was more concerned "about what the Jones' would think" regarding her therapy. Geez, it's really something. It's like, "Honey, get help, but keep us out of it, we have an image of the good family to protect!"
It remains a lonely place.
poster:sjb
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