Posted by TryingToBeMerry on April 18, 2004, at 18:19:02
In reply to He crossed the line, posted by shadows721 on April 17, 2004, at 21:20:41
To repeat what's already, been said - yes, it definitely IS abuse! I've been in therapy for several years now and it's a topic we come back to often. My family also was unsupportive (they didn't believe me and when a teacher recommended a therapist, their first question to the therapist was about what other people would think of our family because I was seeing a therapist!). One of the things I'm trying to deal with in my therapy right now is accepting the limitations of my family. I don't mean to say that what they did was right. Not at all. But I can't undo the way they reacted and I can't have a permanent grudge against them either. It still hurts, and the more I talk about it with my therapist, the more it hurts. Because she makes me realize I should have been treated so much differently by my parents. But how they dealt with it and how I feel about it are things that I have to learn to deal with and not let it mess me up.
I don't know if I'm making any sense. I'm still trying to figure things out myself. All I'm trying to say is that if anger towards your family or feelings of being betrayed by them are eating you up, you should talk to a therapist who could help you deal with it. You can't change your family, but you can change how you deal with their treatment of you.
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