Posted by Pfinstegg on April 21, 2004, at 14:31:26
In reply to Re: Darn stupid thing to be upset about, posted by pegasus on April 21, 2004, at 11:08:27
If I follow, with you, the model my analyst uses with me, the conclusion we would eventually come to is that *one* of my several ego-states is full of distrust, and expects the worst in terms of rejecton, etc. At the same time, *other* ego states are trusting, loving and confident.
He always says that he wants *all of me* in there with him, and, in fact, just told me today that he is pleased with the progress of the therapy because so many more distrustful, angry, hopeless parts of me are involved in the therapy. When I express fears of being disliked by him, or fearing that he wants to get rid of me, I don't get re-assured, but get a response such as, "it's good all these feelings are in here, so we can learn more about them". Invariably, I feel reassured by that, and better able to hold these contradicting ego states in mind at the same time.
I don't know whether this applies, but If we can compare you to me, bringing in more of these fears would be a sign of progress on your part, too. I think acceptance and understanding by your T. are much more important than re-assurances or admissions of fallibility- there's a place for those, too, of course, but perhaps not right now. In any event, keep bringing these feelings up with him!
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