Posted by Raindancer on April 20, 2004, at 18:21:17
In reply to Darn stupid thing to be upset about, posted by Dinah on April 20, 2004, at 15:46:38
Dinah, it seems to me that your T is both honest and trustworthy. I think he was just telling you that no relationship can be perfect all the time. I adore my T but I know that even so I have put the boot in from time to time (mostly to protect myself) and he has also hurt me on occasions (through forgetfulness or clumsiness), but we fight for the relationship and it holds. Therapeutic relationships are precious and special for that very reason, because they are sometimes difficult and painful and sheer hard work - perhaps even more so than a marriage. You have been seeing your T frequently for nine years and i think that speaks for itself. His admission of possibly being sometimes untrustworthy doesn't mean that he harbours bad thoughts or personnifies what's going on in your head, but that he is aware that he is human and fallible. Trust is always a risk but it has many rewards if we can only reach out with faith (and crossed fingers!!) . You've been rather low in the past few days. I hope you will soon feel much better. With thoughts and lots of good wishes and hugs. R.
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