Posted by DaisyM on April 20, 2004, at 19:11:36
In reply to Darn stupid thing to be upset about, posted by Dinah on April 20, 2004, at 15:46:38
Dinah,
You said he would say something like that! So you know him well.Don't over-think this. I agree with the others. He is trying to tell you that he is human and has human failings. Trust is such an odd thing and I don't think it can be universally applied. You don't simply trust a person or not trust them. For example, I trust my Therapist to not tell my secrets but I don't trust (yet?) that I can dump ALL of my feelings out on him at one time. I still separate things, edit and do it in pieces. I trust that my husband will not fool around on me, but I don't trust that he can keep all my secrets.
So we apply different levels of trust to different aspects of individuals. You trust your Therapist with your personal feelings but you still don't "trust" that he won't hurt you. I think to completely open yourself up and be that vulnerable goes against our self-protective/preservation instincts. No matter who it is and how long you've been seeing them.
So, try not to be upset. Maybe you are learning something new about yourself? Maybe what you are really saying is that you want something new to trust in from your Therapist - a new area to work on maybe?
poster:DaisyM
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