Posted by pegasus on April 21, 2004, at 11:08:27
In reply to Darn stupid thing to be upset about, posted by Dinah on April 20, 2004, at 15:46:38
Dinah, I can soooo sympathize with your reaction to this! And I agree with everyone else that he probably just meant that human beings make mistakes, and he'll probably make some.
I can see how aggravating that it might be that he wouldn't give you an example of how he might be untrustworthy. But I can give you an example:My T had to move to another state for family reasons. It sucked for me, but it was the right thing for him to do. If I'd had to make the choice for him, I'd have chosen the same thing he did. So, while it was the best thing he could do, it was a bad thing for him to do *for me*. So, from my perspective, he betrayed my trust in him.
Having to make these types of crazy difficult decisions is part of life. And we all hurt people in our lives at times by decisions that we have to make, even when they're the right decisions. I think my T hated that he had to hurt me and his other clients. I hope your T never has to do anything that hurtful to you, but I'm guessing that's the type of possibility that he was refering to.
And this is *totally* not a stupid thing to be upset about. This is right at the core of therapy! Figuring out how (or how much) to trust them is IMHO the hardest part.
pegasus
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