Posted by KindGirl on February 6, 2004, at 21:29:09
In reply to Re: ?tion to same-sex therapist...HELP!!!, posted by terrics on February 6, 2004, at 20:00:27
Terrics...you said you are not attracted to males but are married. That must be so hard.:( Good for you for talking about it!
One of the things I struggle with is crying at night....I have always cried at night...it is pretty pathetic and sad...I have always cried myself to sleep from the time I can remember....ANYWAY!!!!....I was talking with my T. about this...how I think I am crying for her at night....like that baby in the crib crying for her mommy, and I have to tell myself, "No, she is not coming so quit crying."
But I am usually too distraught by this time and it doesn't work. Told T. about it....she said if I could I should picture her there with me, holding me, holding that baby. I try it and it sometimes works, but this is what I told her...I could ask my husband to hold me when I am crying like this...she thought that was a great idea and was going to suggest it herself and then I realized that is just isn't the same thing as being held by a woman.
I don't want my husband to hold me when I am like that!!!! I want my T. to hold me...she is around 14 years older than me and I wish she really was my mom and it just isn't the same. Does anyone understand this? Am I making any sense?
I think the attraction for a man is going to be different than the attraction for a woman...at least for me it is. I want the nurture and soft hugs and sweet smells of a woman...crying on her soft chest. There is nothing like it. I am fortunate that my t. has been very loving and wants to hold me if that is what I want. It scared the s&*t out of me to finally get up the nerve to ask, but I am so glad I did. She holds me every week now. Does anyone else have t.s that do this? It has really helped me though I know some people are opposed to t.'s doing this. I am glad she does. Whatever! I am getting off on a tangent!!
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