Posted by Asya on February 4, 2004, at 12:40:28
In reply to Re: ?tion to same-sex therapist...HELP!!! » KindGirl, posted by Penny on February 4, 2004, at 9:41:16
Please, please, please don't feel weird or ashamed of this. I am a young woman (age 28) and I have a female therapist who is in her 40s. I am in a relationship with a great guy. I know she is married. Yet, I fantasize about her a lot. Not in an overtly sexual sense but definitely about her holding me, hugging me, etc. I do find her attractive too. There are all sorts of "crushes" people can have and I think women becoming attracted to and infatuated with other women is not an unusual phenomenon. I've come to the conclusion for myself that this happens for me with older women because I crave the maternal affection I never got from my own mother. So, perhaps you have some reason you can point to. And even if not, realize this happens to women all the time, perhaps not just with their therapists, but female bosses, professors, friends, etc. That said, I also think you are in the best position to assess whether telling your T about this would be productive for YOU. I know for me, I could never tell my T because the embarassment and loss of face that would result would probably damage the trust that has been built up and then the relationship would be less useful to me. Also, I have reflected on it enough to understand that it is a part of life and that nothing will ever come of it in real life. I hope this makes some sense.
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