Posted by Crooked Heart on February 5, 2004, at 6:39:27
In reply to ?tion to same-sex therapist...HELP!!!, posted by KindGirl on February 4, 2004, at 9:24:07
Hi KindGirl
So join the club! Everything that Asya and Alexandra K have said rings a bell. I think I'd go more for Alexandra's approach about talking it over with one's therapist, although of course Asya's right about knowing what's best for oneself.
I found the intense feelings for my therapist very scary and it was wonderful to realise that it actually seems to happen a lot. What Asya and Rigby said, better than I can, about lack of maternal affection and the greater the lack the greater the intensity of attachment to your therapist just feels so true.
Reading what so many other people have posted about this, I wonder if it isn't in one way easier to deal with if the attraction is overtly sexual, whether same-sex or not. Because then there would be (or should be) a big NO, and you would grieve, maybe very painfully, and that would be resolved. But do we ever stop wanting mother-love (parent-love)?
Anyway, as recommended by Penny, "In session" is brilliant"". (Hope I've got the double quotes right, this time!)
poster:Crooked Heart
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