Posted by KindGirl on February 7, 2004, at 12:56:22
In reply to Re: ?tion to same-sex therapist...HELP!!!, posted by terrics on February 7, 2004, at 11:19:20
I knew I wanted her to hold me for about a year but I didn't think it was appropriate for me to ask. I was scared to death to come off as gay or weird so I never asked....at least not until a year later.
She told me that we needed to do whatever was needed to help that little baby inside...what did the baby want? what did the baby need? And I said I think the baby wants to be held....YIKES!!!!! That was pretty hard to say.
I felt like I was on a date with a guy and I was at the door and I had that feeling like "Is he going to kiss me or not?"....that horrible feeling....and it was very awkward for me the first time she held me. I was afraid it would make me feel the same way you said you were afraid it would, but it hasn't...thank God.It has made it easier for me to see her as more of a mother type than a lover actually. Before, the desires were out of control and confusing for me....now I see her holding me and it feels more open and innocent...but yeah, it is pretty risky. Best luck to all of you! thanks for sharing with me.
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