Posted by fallsfall on February 4, 2004, at 10:34:57
In reply to Re: Research » fallsfall, posted by Penny on February 4, 2004, at 8:35:22
> I, personally, don't believe you can ever know too much about a subject you are interested in. Because no matter how much you know, there will always be more to learn. But that's just my opinion.
<<< But it may be true that knowing some things can reduce your flexibility (or increase my stubbornness). Or send you off in useless directions. I just know that it makes me feel calmer to read, to know more. Probably calmer because I feel I have more control if I know more. But what GG told me is that I have to give UP control. So knowing more could be not helpful.
> Our view of others is usually much clearer than our view of ourselves. Because we are the only ones in our heads, and we have to add in our own emotions to the equation, which can skew things (though is sometimes helpful).
Hey, speak for yourself. I have perfect control over the few emotions that I have! 8^)
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> Another thing is that we are usually too hard on ourselves.<<< Maybe because the results of our own lives matter so much to us than the results of other people's lives. If they screw up, it doesn't matter as much to us, as if we screw up.
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> But, I must say, you are clearly a stronger person than I am, because I don't think I could deal with the 'blank slate' response from my therapist. And because it seems to me that you are working far harder in therapy than I ever have...<<< Who says I am "dealing" with the blank slate response. I'm going nuts here.
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> And I'm learning so much from you, Falls. I always do.
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> (((fallsfall)))
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> P
<<< Thanks, Penny. Your posts help.
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