Posted by gardenergirl on January 30, 2004, at 21:07:56
In reply to Re: This is my biggest fear! » gardenergirl, posted by DaisyM on January 30, 2004, at 20:54:48
Daisy,
That fear makes a lot of sense. Especially because you are a caring person and would worry about others' reactions. And because you want to be able to tell safely. Hopefully you can get to a point when you trust your T enough to try it out.I know I have listened to clients talk about trauma. It's very painful to see them hurting so much and to hear about things which should NEVER happen to children or even human beings of any age. But somehow we utilize our training and professionalism, along with our desire to be present and open with the client to cope with our own feelings. I'm not sure how I even do it, but after particulary intense sessions with clients, I somehow find a way to "discharge" the emotion. It usually doesn't hang on. That doesn't mean that I no longer feel empathy, but the intensity drops off so I don't carry everyone's stuff home with me or into the next session with someone else.
Do you think you could eventually trust your T to be able to do this? Can you talk to him about your fear itself and your concern about his reaction? Maybe that will help eventually set the stage for talking about it when you are ready.
(Holding your hand in the fear)
gg
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