Posted by DaisyM on January 26, 2004, at 13:51:13
In reply to Re: needing a hug, being refused part II (long), posted by gardenergirl on January 26, 2004, at 6:27:55
>>>But your situation reminds me of a client I had when I was in my third year of training. I often allowed extra sessions, extra long sessions, and phone calls based on his requests. I thought I was being helpful and supportive, but my supervisor pointed out that I had not set a therapeutic frame.
<<<See, this worries me. My Therapist encourages me to call, "if only to have someone help you hold all this stuff." He often wants to know if I want to come back after an especially hard session. We always start on time and we rarely go over, but that is usually me, looking to flee. So now I don't know what to think. I guess it must depend on what issue you are working on, why the person has come to therapy, individually how that person is doing and how the therapy is progressing. My Therapist isn't a novice, he has been in practice over 20 years.
Phone calls for me have, off and on, been important, so I can't imagine having that rule. (I do pay for calls, BTW, if they go more than 5 minutes and are not just "business" type stuff.) On the other hand, if no calling had been in place when I started, I would have assumed it was a universal rule...
I'm gonna ask him about this today even though I know he will tell me that "my" therapy isn't suppose to be like anyone elses and that I have to trust that he knows what he is doing and that it isn't my job to worry about him...blah, blah, blah.
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