Posted by gardenergirl on January 26, 2004, at 6:27:55
In reply to Re: needing a hug, being refused part II (long) » metalflipflop, posted by lookdownfish on January 26, 2004, at 6:00:53
I'm sorry you are going through this. It sounds so confusing and hurtful. Your situation made me wonder if your T is a trainee or someone who regularly undergoes supervision. Her change in the rules may have come at the recommendation of a supervisor. I do think you deserve a better explanation than it seems she gave you. Perhaps she feels ashamed that she has been inconsistent and does not want to talk about the reasons for the changes?? Perhaps she disagrees with her supervisor (if she has one) and does not know how to explain it to you without getting into those issues??
I'm just speculating here. But your situation reminds me of a client I had when I was in my third year of training. I often allowed extra sessions, extra long sessions, and phone calls based on his requests. I thought I was being helpful and supportive, but my supervisor pointed out that I had not set a therapeutic frame. Once I set and stuck to the frame, therapy actually progressed faster. But I needed to explain to my client why I was making changes, and it was kind of embarrassing to admit to him that I had made some mistakes.
I don't know if this fits your situation. Bottom line, though, you deserve a better explanation.
(((((Liz))))) not from a T, but hopefully helps.
Take care,
gg
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