Posted by Catmom on January 26, 2004, at 13:38:29
In reply to Re: needing a hug, being refused part II (long), posted by metalflipflop on January 26, 2004, at 9:42:26
Dear Liz,
Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and I am in your corner. My therapist has never hugged me, but if she had done so, I would think it very difficult to adjust to the change. And very traumatic.
I also wonder about her failure to read your letters. To me, it would break my heart if I had sent my therapist something and she did not bother to open it until we were in session together. I am not saying that the therapist has to respond between sessions, but in the written communicaions I have made to my therapist, she has always read them and comments on them in session.
One thing that we don't really need is the sense that our therapist, a singularly important person in our lives, is not caring. I think a lot of us (and I apologize for generalizing) are here because we were inadequately cared for when younger. We need a "corrective" experience and even if it does not involve a hug, it should involve a steady, sturdy amount of attention.
I just wanted to write; nothing really new to add except to say that I really am thinking of you and hoping that you are feeling good about yourself. It stinks sometimes when therapy makes us feel bad about ourselves (which has happened to me in two sorts of ways: the helpful way in which I learn things and add things up OR the unhelpful way in which I feel diminished, unrespected, and as if my feelings are somehow "wrong."
Take good care!
poster:Catmom
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