Posted by pegasus on January 25, 2004, at 23:34:43
In reply to needing a hug, being refused part II (long), posted by metalflipflop on January 25, 2004, at 22:14:51
Metal, I think this is a very poor way to be treated by a therapist. In your position, I would be devastated. I am almost certain that I would leave that therapist. As you said, trust is a big deal in therapy, and changing the rules midstream is a very trust breeching thing. I would have hoped that she would at least acknowledge that her actions would be difficult for you. And in a perfect world, if she really had good reasons for making these changes, she would explain them to you carefully, and help you process the feelings they brought up for you. All the while being respectful and mindful of the pain her decision was causing you.
I've heard of people seeking consultations in situations like this where it seems that the therapy is in jeopardy but both the client and therapist want to preserve it. I think the idea is that you find a neutral second therapist, and consult with them (either with our without your therapist) about the situation. I'm not sure what exactly would happen at that point, although I'm pretty sure the whole thing would involve conversation between your therp and this neutral therp about your situation. I'm guessing that might be helpful to you at this crisis point, and maybe it'll be a way you can salvage your relationship with your therapist.
-p
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