Posted by Lyrical13 on January 23, 2004, at 5:41:16
In reply to Re: brother telling her » Lyrical13, posted by dragonfly25 on January 21, 2004, at 23:37:29
I definitely agree about parents being the root of it. There is definitely something biochemical but there is little structure in that house. They really need some family therapy. I have been looking into finding her a therapist that has experience with cutting. Her meds aren't right yet. I had a long talk with my step-mom last night. I showed her some of the articles I dug up on the web about BPD, BP, finding a therapist, interviewing a therapist to see if they're right for you. I also talked to her very strongly about figuring out a support person for my sister at school...someone she can go to when she's having a rough time...a safe haven. She says that the counselor sis is assigned to (by alphabet) is a real dick. I told her she could demand a different one. She needs to let the school know that her daughter is going through major problems and demand a different counselor that sis can be comfortable going to when she's having a difficult time. Step-mom also brought up that their "hands are tied" by the insurance company in terms of pdocs. I told her that there are plenty of good docs and therapists out there that are on her plan...it will just take some work to find the right one and it probably wouldn't be in our town (it's fairly small). I told her I would help drive my sis to appts. if that would help. I showed her this site and the posts about sis and people's responses. Hopefully they will see the seriousness of this. My sis knows that I am looking into finding a pdoc and therapist with experience in her problems.
The other thing is this...step-mom is hiding the severity of the problem from my dad. He doesn't know about the cutting. He comes down hard on sis quite a bit...he's quick to blame whoever is in his path if soemthing isn't going right. Like the computer locked up one night when sis was writing a report. She was already upset b/c her report was lost and then he comes in and starts yelling at her about locking up the computer. It wasn't her fault but he was pissed about it having problems and she was within striking distance. (figuratively). She has a lot of anger at him. I don't know if it is just because of this kind of thing or if there is something else. She says often that she hates him. I feel bad for even thinking this, but I wonder if he's done something to her?
I mentioned to sis that I hoped she would get help and get things straightened out now while she's young. I told her I had lost a job, spent a month in the hospital and am thousands of dollars in debt b/c of my BP2 that is just being dx'ed after years of tx. I told her I hoped she could avoid that because life would be so much easier for her. Please keep her in your thoughts.
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