Posted by dragonfly25 on January 21, 2004, at 23:37:29
In reply to brother telling her, posted by Lyrical13 on January 21, 2004, at 20:57:47
i hear ya, maybe that wasn't the best suggestion.
i didn't realize he wasn't that "caring" towards her.
this is a really tough situation (as you probably know), in my opinion, i think your parents are the root of it. (just a thought???) if things are going to change for her, it NEEDS to start with them, or she needs to get out of the house, (is that an option? boarding school. i understand your brothers feelings about his daughter, see, they are probably coming more from the wife...yes? it is understandable to want to protect your child, and i would. but your sister is still a kid as well. could you talk to your dad about things around the house? from the sounds of it your sisters are running wild, and they have NO responsibility for anything???
unfortunately no matter what you do, i don't think it will make a difference until your parents change things. i hope i am not coming accross...um... insensitive. sometimes i think i have a hard time expressing myself correctly when writing.
but back to the original issue, i think the timing is FINE for you to talk to your sister about your niece. she needs to know who she is affecting. maybe you could talk to your shrink about it. but having been a terror of a teenager myself i think that a dose of reality can do alot of good sometimes.
oh ya- i remember reading about your sis freaking out whiile reading "certain" sites. i worry those sites might be dangerous sometimes, putting ideas in kids heads. (just a thought)
i really feel for you...
good luck with this
drgonfly
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