Posted by Lyrical13 on January 17, 2004, at 8:45:26
I tried to go back to find the original post from back in Nov (or was it dec?) and I still can't. I haven't quite got teh hang of searching for archived posts.
Anyway, I posted a couple months ago about my sister who is probably BP of some variety... only 14 years old (15 at the end of this month) and is on meds but is still having a heck of a time. I am still very concerned about her and my parents aren't all that proactive about getting her appropriate help. She goes to her pediatrician for meds but I just found out that she doesn't even see him on a regular basis to monitor the meds. Just "call when you need me" kind of approach. That's BS. Her meds were increased in Nov about a week after she told me about the cutting adn she hasn't seen or talked to him since. She is doing better than she was but over the holiday break when her girlfriend was out in CA marching in the Rose Bowl parade (gone for a week) she was falling apart. I've talked to her about finding a new therapist (she doesn't like the one she had and so quit). From what she has told me, it sounds like the therapist didn't really have a lot of experience with cutting. And just last week she told me that my pdoc (who she had one session with back in Nov when I strongly recommended to step-mom that she get into tx pronto) actually told her she was cutting for attention! Hello! Yeah, that's why she's been hiding it from everyone since 6th grade (she's now in 9th). I'm very worried about her and wonder what I can do to advocate for more help for her.
My dad isn't really assertive or proactive about anything..basically your emotionally absent father. And when he does try to set limits or talk to my sis about her behavior, my stepmom sabotages it. She's trying to be the "cool best friend" parent...which is why my sis is still throwing tantrums at her age. They still work. I worry about my sis...she has these rages and her temper/tolerance level is very short. And the way they allow her to talk to them! The problem is, I love her very much and know she is a very sensitive caring person under that whole veneer. She would be crushed if she knew how people were talking about her...she would be crushed if she knew that my brother and his wife don't want their 4 yr old daughter around her very much because my neice is starting to behave like my sis. How can I make her see that she needs to get help before her behavior creates more problems and heartbreak for her? I dont' want to hurt her, but I'd like to spare her from the 13 years of heartache and near-suicidal spells that I've been through. She was sounding suicidal in Nov. She still seems like she's on edge. I dont' want to lose my sis. I'm so worried and I don't know what to do. How can I encourage my folks to get her the help she needs, and get her to accept that help without completely alienating anyone? And how do I find a pdoc and therapist with experience with her type of problems? Is there a way I can search for several possible candidates for this job that she can go and check out? I've mentioned this to her..finding pdoc/therapist who knows about cutting... she seems to be thinking about it...seems open to it some days and other days says, "I feel fine. I just felt worse when I talked to the therapist before"....Help help help!!!!
Lyrical13
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