Posted by pedr on October 14, 2003, at 6:42:39
In reply to Re: Alcohol consumption time taken to feel depres » pedr, posted by NikkiT2 on October 13, 2003, at 13:44:06
I will probably make my therapist cringe with my inaccuracies but my definition of REBT is that it is the practice of replacing your "unhealthy beliefs" with a collection of flexible, very powerful, logic-driven and evidence-powered "healthy beliefs".
It sounds rather grandiose/flower power but it's not at all like that. It boils down to learning to recognise, challenge and replace what REBT defines as the 3 main causes of emotional disturbance:
1. low frustration beliefs e.g. "I can't bear this dull job any more."
2. global rating beliefs e.g. "If someone looks approvingly at me then I'll be more worthy."
3. awfulizing beliefs e.g. "It'd just be _awful_ if that poor old person has no-one to look after them.".The corresponding "healthy" beliefs would be:
1. high frustration tolerance beliefs e.g. "This job is dull as sh*te but it's bearable - I won't dissolve and die if I sit here all afternoon."
2. part-rating beliefs e.g. "It'd be nice if he/she looks at me approvingly but it won't make me a "better person" if they do and it won't make me a "worse person" if they don't - I'm made up of too many things to be summed up like that.
3. anti-awfulizing beliefs e.g. "yes it'd be bloody rough should that old bloke not get any assistance but there are almost certainly worse injustices in the World - this isn't truly awful.<phew, swipes forehead with back of hand>
Anyway, there's a little taster.
HTH,
p
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