Posted by kara lynne on September 18, 2003, at 13:13:44
In reply to Re: ridesred, posted by ridesredhorses on September 18, 2003, at 5:28:38
ridesred, you're cute. I'm not upset. You're right, it's a classic cue. I even said to this current guy, 'This is classic Lifetime After School Special' fodder. The whole 'what did you do to perpetuate it' line. He might as well have asked me if I was dressing seductively---are we back in the dark ages here? That's what makes it so hard to understand--this guy is supposed to be really good, I can't imagine he's that ignorant. So I keep thinking I must be missing something--I must!
It is along the same lines of 'don't tell anyone, they won't understand...our relationship is special', which is what the other therapist used to say. But this guy is confusing the issues, or something. He insists that he's not condoning the other guy's behavior, and trying to make it seem like he's helping me with a self destructive pattern. But then why would he focus so strongly on trying to find out if I enjoyed the attention? That seems so 101 to me, you know? I think I just got to the bottom of it myself anyway. It was connected entirely to survival and abandonment--it goes a little deeper than wanting to feel pretty.
Thank you for your support.
poster:kara lynne
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