Posted by fallsfall on September 16, 2003, at 13:01:56
In reply to Re: Help......for a newcomer, posted by emmaley on September 16, 2003, at 11:49:20
I know how hard it is to talk when you are afraid. I would write it down and bring it in. If I could read it outloud I would, otherwise I would just hand it to her. Then at least the topic was out there.
But you're still not sure that you *want* to talk about it. " I have always found it hard to trust people, especially males, and often experience myself as powerless or "too much trouble" when I get near them." Emmaley, this is probably the safest man you will ever encounter. I liked Hannah's idea of talking about transference in general.
What you have said about this therapist leads me to believe that he is experienced and careful. Has he ever tried to shut you down or attack you in the past? If he hasn't then maybe those feelings go with a situation in your past, and you expect this situation to play out the same way. When I encounter that I can tell that my feelings are old feelings because they are much stronger than usual feelings.
You can also talk to him about being afraid to talk. Being afraid to talk may actually be more important than the transference stuff.
I'm cheering you on!
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