Posted by HannahW on September 16, 2003, at 10:45:30
In reply to Help......for a newcomer, posted by Emmaley on September 15, 2003, at 5:59:09
I think most of us have felt the way you do. Some of us still feel that way. I'm in the middle of sorting my feelings out, myself. Just a few weeks ago, I felt ashamed and pathetic for having feelings about someone who has made the boundaries very clear. Since finding this board, and doing some other reading (I'm currently reading In Session), I've found that it is such a normal response to the therapy process. It really has taken away the shame for me. If my therapist doesn't "get" transference (and I'm not sure yet if she does) then it is she who is uneducated and should feel bad.
It sorta sounds like your therapist didn't quite "get it" in the beginning, but that after talking to his colleagues, he woke up to the value of transference in a therapeutic relationship. Your relationship with your therapist is somewhat symbolic of your outside relationships. If you experience uncomfortable emotions with him, you can work through them together and then be able to use those same skills on the "outside."
It sounds like you're doing the right things. Don't give up.
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