Posted by Adia on September 4, 2003, at 12:49:53
In reply to Re: Fees and meaning » kara lynne, posted by Dinah on September 4, 2003, at 12:32:18
Hi Dinah,
I am really sorry that you feel deep down inside your heart that he's charging you more just because it's you..and that you feel you're not worth taking on at a lower rate. I can identify with your feelings. My therapist has been really frustrated with my progress in the past and she has told me and we've been through some hard times. Sometimes I am so hard on myself that a part of me just feels grateful that she agrees to see me and lets me be there with her for a while, and I don't feel I can ask anything from her, because I feel she's making such an extra effort to stand me. But these are just my fears...
I feel you are being really hard on yourself..Why would he charge you more than any other clients..? Therapy is hard sometimes but that doesn't mean he will judge you as a person or think bad of you or anything.
I am really sorry you feel that in your heart.
Maybe you can share more about this with him, in writing if you feel it is too hard to talk about face to face..? When I have to talk about money and fees I do it in writing cause I feel so scared that if we do talk about it , she might change her mind and find a reason to leave me.
My therapist usually charges 100$ to her clients, but she changes that according to the finantial situation of each particular client..I pay her $50..and she waits if I can't pay her...she says that we can always work something out.
Maybe you can at least share with him what you feel, without mentioning the money at this point?
How you're afraid of him not wanting to work with you..
and maybe then you can try to share that you are having finantial difficulties..?I am sending you lots of support,
Adia.
> I do believe it deep down. And because I believe it I'd never ask for a price reduction. Because I'd be afraid he'd find reasons to get rid of me. Because I'm afraid I'm not worth taking on at a lower rate.
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> To be fair to him, he does take calls between sessions and only charges for them if they are extremely lengthy, at least ten minutes. He used to "catch up time" with me. Start late but finish on time. But I called him on that and he doesn't do it any more (at least not very often, maybe sometimes he gets confused). In fact that was the reason I inquired about raising the rates. I noticed my sessions were getting to be more 45 or even 40 minutes rather than 50, and I wondered aloud if that was in lieu of a rate increase. (See. I can be an annoying client. Grin.)
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