Posted by stebby on August 11, 2003, at 10:02:03
In reply to Re: also in love with therapist » stebby, posted by Dinah on August 10, 2003, at 20:53:43
I know what you mean about not wanting to work through it. Maybe that is what you need right now and eventually you will figure out how to get what you need from a reciprocal relationship. The problem for me is the frustration of knowing it could never go beyond the office. I have this secret hope that somehow she feels the same way and would want to pursue something outside of the therapeutic environemnt. Also, its not good for my relationship with my husband to spend my time thinking about my thereapist ALL of the time. That is why I find it painful in a way. On the other hand she does make me feel so much better. I guess that's why the transference started. I have been in these transferential relationships so many times now always with people I can't have, and it always ends in pain. Just as you are despaerately afraid of him leaving, so am I. My therapist said that I could hang around as long as I needed to until I work this out. That was SO reassuring. I wonder if she knows she may never get rid of me
Have you approached this topic with your therapist? What does he say?
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