Posted by Dinah on August 10, 2003, at 20:53:43
In reply to Re: also in love with therapist » Dinah, posted by stebby on August 10, 2003, at 19:46:03
I hope the transference can be worked through. Or maybe I don't. He's my safe harbor. I feel like a blind pup nestled by mom's soft belly. I want to keep that feeling more than anything. Since it's not a terribly painful transference, I haven't got a real incentive to try to end it. I feel bad, then I see him and talk to him and I feel better. He says it's the talking that helps, and that it's no magic on his part. I don't know.
The problem will be if he terminates me.
I don't really envy his kids. I figure they've got the real dad, fights over clothing and homework and curfew. I've got the therapist/mom which is better than any real one can ever be. After all, he only has to see me two hours a week.
My feelings are strongest when I'm feeling really agitated or upset. Because I know that most of the time seeing him can make me feel better. I also feel more strongly while I'm there or right after I leave. I have trouble holding on to images over time, so I use the answering machine to remind me of him. Otherwise his image dissolves between sessions. Or rather, I can take a piece of how he feels with me when I leave, but it only lasts a few days and then it's hard to reach.
However, I've heard stories of the transference being successfully worked through, so I know it's possible. I just don't try.
I gotta think that not trying isn't all that healthy though.
Let us know how it goes with the two of you actively working on it. I'd be really interested.
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