Posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 4, 2002, at 16:27:19
In reply to Re: crush on therapist - namesake, posted by namesake on December 4, 2002, at 15:29:36
>I am not necessarily looking for an affair, but would really like to see him one more time, no matter what he says. As for attraction,we did flirt in the beginning...
-----------------You know, I've never been one to knee-jerk dismiss taboo relationships. You never know when you might stumble across the exact right person, and I've always reserved the right to do whatever I felt was best, regardless. Given your situation, though, there are some pretty substantial sacrifices to be made in order to even try at starting a relationship with this guy. Even if you like him, what are the odds he feels the same way? Even if you're willing to leave your family for him, what are the odds he'll want to do the same? Even if he does, what are the odds that the two of you will be compatible? Even if you are, what will make this relationship more enduring than the one you're already in? How well do you know him, based on your two encounters?
Dinah was right in saying that we all have these impulses from time to time. People are wired that way, romanticizing the speciously pleasing aspects of everyday encounters. I'm very much in love with my girlfriend, so all I have to do is think about the heartbreak I'd cause her, and I immediately want to go hug her.
I guess it depends on your motivations. I've been in relationships that I wanted out of. If you're truly unhappy with your current partner, talk with them about it. If that doesn't work, get a divorce first. Anything's possible. Have some sort of plan, though. Don't go into a situation without a realistic assesment of the costs and benefits of your actions. No corporation would base major decisions on infatuation alone.
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