Posted by goldfish on October 8, 2002, at 21:11:24
In reply to Re: crush on therapist..boundries, schmoundries, posted by Seedwoman on October 8, 2002, at 20:43:05
I tried to think of things the way you did, Seedwoman--maybe if I just wait the crush out, something important will emerge; maybe the crush itself is telling me something; maybe my only chance for sanity is with the object of my misplace desire! But staying with him just seemed too fraught, too dangerous an experiment.
One interesting thing about my experience: my initial success in therapy (dealing with anxiety) was very much related to the attraction I felt for him, the approval I wanted to get from him for working hard. Maybe that's not the purest motivation, but it sure served the purpose! Once I was ready to deal with other issues, it was really hard for me to understand why I needed this wild card of being in love with my therapist to intrude...
Anyway, it's good to know that you were able to successfully "work through" your attraction. I don't know if it's possible to answer this question, but do you think you would have done better with a therapist you weren't attracted to?
As I write this it occurs to me what an American, puritan almost, problem this is. Maybe the Europoeans would just say, "so you are attracted to zee therapist, zee world will not end, it is, how you say, healty to feel luff in zis way."
Whereas I ran screaming in the other direction, mortified about feeling attracted to someone I wasn't "supposed" to feel attracted to!
take care and good luck
-gf
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