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communication w/ just words, a challenge OK

Posted by muffled on December 10, 2008, at 16:20:09

In reply to Re: This is so hard » TherapyGirl, posted by twinleaf on December 8, 2008, at 18:02:23

as ever, this written stuff is SO hard to put context to.
So much of communication involves body language, inflection and tone of voice.
None of this is possible w/written words.
Also the delay doesn't help much either.
It is interesting to discuss this dilemma.
But sometimes I have discovered....its just not possible.
So I call it a day and walk away.
That rhymes.
Day, away.
Hmmm.
Can we discuss, not so much who said what etc, but focus on useful possible ways to help any babbler in distress?
Not what was done in the past, but in general.
The choices are VERY limited IMHO.
1. post gently and civilly
2. b-mail more firmly if you are their friend
3. offer to go and 'chat' with them
4. walk away for a day or two so as not to be triggered
5. blocking may be necessary if others are being blatantly hurt or there is alot of disruption
6. ?

My only other comment is wattup w/PBC paranoia!!! Had it myself B4, so I 'get' it. Its all about 'punish' etc for me. That I was 'bad'. My own perceptions, right or wrong.
I wonder how we could 'promote?' PBC's as just what they are (I think?) and that is primarily a teaching thing, a reminder? Think of it a a word from someone who cares enuf to try and teach and help you understand how this place works.
NOT, "OH NO!! I got a PBC now I am gonna get blocked!!! I'm scared! I'm bad, evry one will hate me."
Mebbe better, "oh crap, I got a PBC, where did I go wrong, and how can I do it differently? It kinda feels bad, but at least I am learning, and I (should) only get blocked if I really screw up. Its OK."
Of course I don't even understand some PBC's, but then I have to think to myself, this place is NOT really a true democracy. There is one ultimate king here, and whether or not we agree, Bob is KIng. He has the final word, the ultimate authority. It is HIS site. He owns it, sorta runs it, maintains it, pays for it, and rules it.
Sucks.
But thats the way it is.
Like it or lump it.
Mostly its not SO bad.

My ramdom thots.
I feel they are rational, but then I read some of my post from a year ot two back....and I THOT I was rational THEN!!! LOL! but now I read my posts and I wonder what in heck was I thinking????? I was SO convinced at the time....
Sigh.
S'pose I human after all.
Guess thats a good thing.
Hmmm.
Best wishes all.
M

 

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