Posted by rskontos on December 11, 2008, at 18:58:19
In reply to Re: This is so hard » twinleaf, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 18:23:41
I don't mean to add smoke to the fire but I re-read the statements that Twinleaf refers to as the 4 statements, and I must admit if I had received those statement directly made to me like to her I would have been hurt too. In fact, I would probably leave babble for a while. Deputies posts even not as deputies are scary to me, I don't mean to hurt your feelings but if I can't be honest on Admin. board than where can you be honest.
Dinah I respect you and your hard work. I am not trying to take sides.
It seems to me, in these cases, that words, whether spoken or written are often inadequate. Because intent is never truly known. And sometimes an explanation can not fully let another know intent.
The civility guidelines can try to protect all of us. But in any given situation, in my opinion, someone can get hurt and often times does. I wish it wasn't so but I think this long thread validates my opinion to some degree.
I wasn't going to post anymore, just like I watched SSSS spiral down and was unable to help not knowing how.
But I wanted to express that sometimes not matter how hard someone tries, like Dr. Bob with the guidelines, someone will get hurt.
When you tell someone that has been here a long time the rules, it does come across as either a hurtful thing or a tongue in cheek thing. I know Dinah you did not mean it as either. But the wording of the civility guidelines is so dry that is doesn't let your personality shine forth so it comes across flat. And maybe that is where the hurt comes from.
I don't know if I am explaining this right. But I see why each of you are hurt. H@ll why all of us are hurt.
Maybe there is no happy ending and no way from now on to help others that might find themselves in the same situation as SSSS.
It is unfortunately but maybe just part of life at Babble.
I don't know.
Let's try to be friends again. ok. this is hard on all of us.
The deputies have a hard time. So do us Babblers trying to tiptoe around those darn guidelines.
We do manage to give Support to each most of the time though despite all the human fragility of language and perception.
rsk
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