Posted by twinleaf on December 10, 2008, at 13:10:24
In reply to Re: the reasons for my post... » twinleaf, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2008, at 10:39:40
Dinah, the problem I have with this whole posting sequence is that anyone reading it through would not ever think that I criticized either your or Racer's actions as deputies, or any other posters' opinions or thoughts. I praised your posts attempting to help SSSS avoid going into an extreme emotional meltdown which would be harmful to others and would necessitate a block. When the block came, I did not question that it was needed; the only comment I made was that her pain and suffering were so apparent that I wondered whether a bit more time to offer calming and supportive posts would have made any difference. I certainly don't know the answer to that, (it probably would not have) and I actually was wondering more about what the best response might be in a similar future situation. To sum up, I simply did not do or say anything which was critical or undermining of the deputies or of anyone else- not even in the most subtle manner. That was a very difficult situation; I personally was not sure when the right time to impose a block would be, and I accepted without question that you and Racer had done the best that anyone could do. The only thing I did- speculating in an objective manner about how best to respond in a similar future situation is simply not the equivalent of a put-down, attack or criticism of either one of you, or of anyone else.
It was therefore a shock to me to have my thoughts responded to as if I had been pushing up against, or had gone over the Board's civility guidelines. It was a shock to have a deputy remind me not to employ negative characterizations, when I had not been anywhere near to doing so, to point out to me that posters are not psychotherapists, when that has simply not been an issue in any post I've written over the last five years, to remind me that I must consider the
feelings and needs of other posters, when almost every post of mine, including the ones on this thread, have shown how important I feel this to be, and finally to characterize me as feeling that deputies act with vengeance when they block posters. I have never accused any deputy of having any negative feelings and do not feel that this is a factor at all. It is, however, a fact that the act of being blocked can feel like a rejection- probably more so when Babble has become an emotionally important community to someone. My point in bringing that up was that it is one factor to consider when a block is being considered.I feel that I dealt with everyone in a fair manner. and that my posts earlier on in this thread were nonjudgemental, supportive and easily able to hold the needs and interests of posters in difficulty, observing posters, and deputies simultaneously in mind. However, If the situation had been reversed, and I had posted those four statements to you, Dinah, I would have received a PCB as a minimum; I would more likely have been blocked.
. Now, while you do not feel the need to address or modify any of your statements to me, which came first in time, you are asking me to modify one of mine, which came second in time as a response to yours. It would not occur to me to ask you to change something you have said. I feel that you say what you think and believe, and that is sacrosanct. However, I spoke what I felt to be the truth, also, when I said that your post contained statements "which any reasonable person would interpret as containing criticisms and put-downs".
While I understand well what may be coming next, I have to stick by what I believe to be true.
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