Posted by twinleaf on December 8, 2008, at 18:02:23
In reply to Re: This is so hard, posted by TherapyGirl on December 8, 2008, at 17:00:01
Yes, TG - I think you have expressed the most important thing. Despite clear good intentions and reasonable site guidelines, the result for her is that we have rejected her and left her alone with her pain and struggles. Many of the thoughts and feelings she expressed here were really just attempts to solve intensely distressing and painful feelings which her new therapy is bringing to the surface. I'm not sure how these situations could be handled better, but I'm sure there's a way. If I could have said something like, "tell us how you are feeling, but don't provoke or attack others", I would gladly have done so. But I know that a deputy might feel that. in order to carry out her responsibilities, she would need to warn me about putting her down. Like everyone else, I hate being told that, so I no longer take the chances in reaching out to others here that I once did.
I hope that this situation, now resolved for the moment, will encourage lots of Babblers to think about how these situations might be handled so that the needs of the individual and the rights of the community are addressed so that both might be met to a greater degree.
poster:twinleaf
thread:867435
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