Posted by zeugma on January 8, 2006, at 16:12:37
In reply to Re: Too bad attending no longer appeals to me. » zeugma, posted by alexandra_k on January 8, 2006, at 15:45:06
alex, these questions are too deep for me. the intent behind them however is kind.
it seems to me that there is an inherent problem that is peculiar to the nature of this board. and that is, not that people say nasty things (because i am not going to defend nastiness) but that people try to help. and there are times when say person x knows that substance y is toxic in a certain dosage and advises against those quantities, and inevitably winds up becoming a de facto authority on the behavior. and says that consuming substance y is *insert uncivil word here*. now is that nastiness? no.
or say someone knows person x and can't bear the thought of person x's doing y. so person z gets intensely involved in what person x is doing and things are said that get everyone upset. now if this were a hospital everyone could go to sleep at night knowing that act y is impossible- person z cools off, discussion resumes next day.
well therapy. this is therapy and my own experiences with therapy have not made me too sanguine. but we're trying.
ut, beyond question, simply beyond question, i must get less excited. and all that posting about Grice gets me worked up too. the analysis of every shading of utterance. it's relevant to civility, because we imply what we can't say directly, but it is getting me too worked up and I don't want to work anyone else up either, specifically you.
-z
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