Posted by Zo on June 26, 2002, at 2:13:48
In reply to Re: Memorial (Re: sar thread)- a rebuke of sorts » JonW, posted by wendy b. on June 26, 2002, at 0:32:04
. . .I can tell you that the *last* thing I wanted to know was that someone here didn't make it. The board was to me, then, a pocket of hope. I could not have borne it, I think, had I been hit in the face with a page, with a mention, with *any* evidence of a real suicide.
As a person, of course I'd like to have a memorial to Sar.
But as a once enormously vulnerable reader of PB. .. In that stripped down state of mind, everything's a scorecard, you're looking for signs--okay, she is making it, and here's someone else who sounds bad off, but they're making it. . .
Maybe we need to separate our personal feelings about Sar.. . from the implicit obligation that a public message board has.
I know I'd rather err on the side of hope. I'd rather we extended the fiction that we're all going to make it. . . I mean, why *document* that some don't. It could have been, for me, that last little nudge. Perhaps we have a serious responsiblity to *not* provide that reminder, given the situation of many who come looking for a site like this.
Anyway, just some thoughts. . .
Zo
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