Posted by JonW on June 25, 2002, at 7:52:34
In reply to Re: Memorial (Re: sar thread...) » Dr. Bob » JonW, posted by mair on June 24, 2002, at 22:06:09
> I think of memorials as really being a celebration of a person's life, and he or she is no less deserving of that simply because of the manner of death. (I'm not suggesting that you
Hi Mair,
I'm not suggesting that those who die by their own hand are less *deserving* of a memorial, but I am suggesting we at least entertain the thought that it could be more beneficial to this community to minimize any memorial. I'm really not sure what I think about having a memorial or not (which is not to say I think anyone is less deserving of one), I mean, it's hard for me to separate emotion from science. In any event, I just thought the question should be raised.
>would think this) I continue to find it difficult to come to terms with Sar's death. It's been almost 3 months now and I find that I still think of her in some context more days than not. People here have mostly moved on and Sar is
I'm sorry for the loss of those close to Sar and I'm sorry you've had such trouble coming to terms with things. Have you thought about seeing a psychologist to help you through this difficult time?
>Board history. Maybe the memorial is not necessary at all, but I don't see anything in the concept which would glorify suicide to any degree.
I think it's a matter of a susceptible person *mistaking* the memorial to be honoring the suicide rather than mourning a loss. I don't know if you've read "Night Falls Fast", but Kay Jamison makes a pretty convincing argument to approach these things with some caution, imho.
Jon
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