Posted by 10derHeart on June 18, 2006, at 21:34:13
In reply to Re: Victims? Targets? :-(, posted by pulse on June 18, 2006, at 19:14:04
...consider whether part of your post was in keeping with the need to be sensitive to the feelings of others reading here? In particular those dx'd with bpd?
First, I want to say that it must have been terrible to go through what you did - terrifying and traumatic, to say the least, and I am so sorry you had to experience being victimized in that way. I've also been hurt mentally and physically by someone who was suffering from a psychiatric problem (nothing to do with bpd) and it was truly scary and awful. No wonder you have lasting effects and a very strong opinion about this particular subject. But...
Having said that, the civility rules here, set by Dr. Bob, require we not post anything that, "could lead others to feel accused or put down" and also that we not overgeneralize. (See the FAQ at:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil)The main idea here is *always* support, despite what we each have experienced in the past. Sometimes, this may mean we have to refrain from stating all our beliefs, in order to stay within the guidelines.
I believe what Deneb was reacting to in your previous post was the sense you were implying that all those dx w/bpd have "targets" and "victimize" others. That is also how I read it. But perhaps both she and I misunderstood?
Anyway, I can see how Deneb, who has posted on other boards about doubts/questions she struggles with re: her own pprior dx of bpd, could feel hurt by part of your previous post.
I like to try and help promote civility and harmony here. I hope any awkwardness in expression on my part doesn't blur the message too much, or sound like an attack - I definitely don't mean to attack you.
Respectfully,
-- 10derHeart (posting as myself, NOT as a deputy for Dr. Bob)
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